So maybe I've been a little M.I.A with the actually "dating" part of my blog. Part of that reason has been because I have actually been seeing someone pretty darn special. Now we're not exclusive yet, so one thing to always remember when just in the "dating/talking stage" my friends. NEVER put all of your eggs in one basket.
Now I'm not saying, continue to sleep with other people. I may like "Nick" the most, and ideally want things to move to the next level. But I am also not going to be naïve and 100% only keep myself to him until that time, because this is the number one mistake typically women tend to do. If you're seeing someone you really like, the best thing to do is continue to go on dates/meet others. That is because this will keep you distracted from wanting to hear from the most important of them all 24/7 and making the mistake of, A) calling too much and B) creating obscure scenarios in your head of why he/she has not contacted you in hours or days at that.
Keep things light and fun with the "potential" lead. Make sure with the other "sides" you do not give them too much hope of anything actually moving forward. This will only make things A) Potentially more confusing and B) A huge mess. I typically tend to go on one or two dates with someone and no more then that. You do not want to lead them on anymore then that. I assure you that the more you're "distracted" continuing to live your life and not seem as interested as you actually are. The "potential" will come your way eventually. Just give it time.
A few rules to remember once again when juggling multiples but not wanting to risk messing anything up with the "potential"...
1. Do not EVER go home with anyone else other then the potential.
*This is the number one rule, because you will get nixed if the potential finds out you're sleeping with other people; that is a red flag of betrayal/trust.
2. Do not go on more then 2 dates with another prospect; unless your feelings are growing stronger with them then the potential.
3. I would keep it to yourself that you're seeing others. Unless you think it will work in your favor with the potential... Usually this just backfires, I know this from experience.
4. The three "C's". Always remain calm, cool and collected. For example, if they bail on you after making plans to go on a date. Do not take it personal, something could have actually come up, things happen. They will want to make plans again if you respond as such, "no worries, another time!" and leave it at that.
Girls only:
5. Let the potential do the work. Let them call, text and ask you out first. At least in the first month. You do not want to come off clingy and annoying.
6. Be independent. Not only should you be independent even after becoming "official", but usually nothing more a man loves, is a women who can make her own money and do things on her own.
What Is too long to wait until it is just you and that person exclusively?
That all depends on how long you can play the waiting game and you're ok with it. Just make sure if you're the girl, I highly recommend you do not bring it up until the guy does. They need to be the ones to realize they want to be with you.
Until you're official with someone, go have fun! It is the summer after all and their loss if it does not work out.
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